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A Beautiful Bollywood & Irish Fused Wedding by Darren Kirwan Photography

Bride and Groom: Pamela Bentley, Actuary and Davesh Dubal, Investment Banker
Length of engagement: 1 year and 9 months | Wedding date: 26th May 2012
Wedding ceremony/reception: Catholic Ceremony, Cratloe Church, Hindu Ceremony & Reception, Dromoland Castle
Wedding photographer: Darren Kirwan Photography

Every time we feature a new real wedding on WeddingsOnline, we fall head over heels in love with the couple involved. Every. Time. But this time it all felt a little bit more special… magical even. Maybe it was because Pamela and Davesh had not one, but two weddings, and that meant there were two dresses for us to lust over! Their first ceremony was a traditional Catholic mass in Cratloe Church, this was followed with a vibrant red and gold themed Hindu ceremony in Dromoland Castle. Both were beautiful and the attention to every last detail was awe-inspiring.

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We met… On New Year’s Eve in 2006 at a bar called Zebrano in London.

First impressions of your Davesh… I thought he was tall, dark and handsome!

Davesh’s first impressions of you… He was amused by my Irish wit! On our first date we laughed so much, we instantly clicked!

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Our proposal… Davesh proposed to me in Dubai on a trip back from South Korea where we were visiting a friend, Maeve. He had booked us into a villa near the sea. On the night that he proposed he had arranged a private meal for us on the beach. After we had finished we walked down towards the shoreline, where he got down on one knee and asked me to marry him.

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My dress… It was a Justin Alexander (available from McElhinneys Bridal Rooms) dress in ivory lace. It was so elegant and flattering, I didn’t want to take it off!

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Our wedding theme/ colours… The wedding theme was Ireland meets Bollywood. We had gold coloured favours during our reception and influences of red during the Hindu ceremony. We wanted to draw upon both of our cultural differences – we hadn’t heard of many Irish/Indian weddings before!

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Our ceremonies… We had two ceremonies on the day; a Catholic mass followed by a traditional Hindu ceremony. The mass was in Cratloe Church, a beautiful small church close to Dromoland. We had a fantastic church singer, Gemma Sugrue who was amazing and we also involved a lot of friends and family in the ceremony so guests felt part of the day. The Hindu ceremony followed in Dromoland Castle. The room was beautiful with ceiling to floor lights and lots of colour. We both changed into traditional Indian wedding attire. The ceremony itself was very symbolic and again involved lots of family and friends, which made it more intimate.

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My favourite part of the wedding… It was seeing each other for the first time in our wedding outfits. We also had Irish dancers (Mystic Force) in the reception who choreographed some dancing to Bollywood music, which was excellent and helped express our different cultural backgrounds.

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My advice for other brides… Relax and enjoy the day – it goes by so quick!

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We chose our venue because… As soon as we drove into the entrance of Dromoland Castle we knew it was where we wanted to get married. The grounds were absolutely stunning and the views of the castle as you meander through the golf course are fantastic. As we also wanted to have an Irish/Indian fusion wedding,  we wanted somewhere that would help accommodate our needs. When we met Dromoland’s wedding co-ordinator, Margaret Daly, we instantly felt in safe hands. She was a great help every step of the way. As we had a large number of guests attending the wedding the main reception room was large enough for our guests but at the same time felt intimate. The food and wine at the venue were also exceptional so we knew our guests would have a great time.

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Our first dance song… ‘Better’ by Tom Baxter.

Our honeymoon… We took three weeks off in total and went to Ecuador, the Galapagos Islands and St.Lucia.

Vendors

Dress: Justin Alexander
Shoes: Rainbow Club
Bridal Accessories: A present
Suit: Moss Bespoke
Bridesmaid Dresses: Dessy Collection
Flowers: Anne Romer
Music: Weightless Cosmonauts
Cake: Zita Kennedy, Borrisoleigh
Make-up: Lucienne Meehan
Hair: Evelyn McGrath, Borrisoleigh
Photographer: Darren Kirwan
Videographer: Dreamcatcher Productions
Stationary: Provided by Dromoland Castle
Wedding Car: Bentley Wedding Hire
Indian Mandap: SBD Events
Photobooth: Perfect Photobooth
Irish Dancers: Mystic Force

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  9 comments

  1. Avatar Mike says:

    Not sure if you will see or be able to reply to this, but I would love to know how you went about fitting two ceremonies into just one day.

    We are in the process of planning our wedding and would like to do a similar thing, but it just feels like a bit of a nightmare trying to fit both the civil ceremony and the Indian wedding into the same day given the outfit changes and the logistics of moving people around.

    Any advice would be very much appreciated!

    Thanks

  2. Avatar Davesh says:

    Hi Mike,

    Apologies for not getting back to you sooner, I haven’t checked this site for some time. I presume you may be married now so I’ll keep this brief just in case! If you still need some more information I’ll have a look here again and will come back to you.

    I have to admit it was tough trying to fit both ceremonies into one day and trying to move guests from one venue to another was challenging. It was however worth it and the day was great! The best advice I can give you is to make sure you have your timings well scheduled. We had a military style schedule which we went through with both venues, both priests and most importantly our wedding party. We wanted to make sure we enjoyed the day as much as possible and knew the only way that would be possible was by ensuring both families and ushers/bridesmaids were aware of the schedule and where people had to be. As you may be aware Hindu ceremonies can be quite long so we tried to get the priest to do a fast-track version. It still had all the core components and lasted about an hour and 30mins. Had we not expressed our wishes he probably could have added an extra 30mins/1hr to the ceremony. The venue needed us to finish on time as they had to clear and turn the room for our wedding breakfast. The timing here was pretty important and the venue did a fantastic job of getting everything done and getting our favours on the table.

    My ushers were great at making sure guests were in the right place and ensured they didn’t feel rushed. We had some friends manning some coaches getting people onto them after the Catholic ceremony. As we knew it was going to be a long day we had prepared some snacks for people on the coach as we pretty much went straight into the Hindu ceremony when we arrived to our final venue. I’d say that was the most stressful part after that all your guests were at one venue and we could really enjoy the rest of the day. We tried to play with our cultural backgrounds to make the wedding as diverse as possible. Getting Mystic Force to choreograph Irish dancing to Bollywood music was a great twist and our guests really enjoyed themselves.

    If you need any further information please do come back…and if you’re married now…congrats!

  3. Avatar Shaifa Remtulla says:

    Hi Devish,

    Your wedding looked and sounded fantastic! I am a bride to be who will also be having an Irish-Indian fusion wedding. My fiancé is Irish, Iam indian. I am looking for inspiration as to how to integrate both cultures into the wedding entertainment. Can you please give me more information regarding your Bollywood choreographed Irish dancers? Also, any other tips you can provide would be much appreciated!

    Regards,
    Shaifa

  4. Avatar Davesh says:

    Hi Shaifa,

    Congratulations on getting engaged! We approached a dance group called Mystic Force to choreograph our Bollywood/Irish dance. When we were searching for a group we saw that they had put together some bespoke pieces for the Got To Dance competition. If you check YouTube you’ll see a video of them incorporating Irish Dancing with Michael Jackson’s Smooth Criminal. They asked us to give a song which they could then blend into their routine; we’d given them Jai Ho from Slumdog Millionaire. The routine on the day was absolutely amazing and our guests thought it was brilliant. It really helped show the fusion of both of our cultures. The person we spoke to was Mark McCole and he can be reached at [email protected].

    We also integrated both cultures by having Indian food in the canapés and afters food. A lot of our Irish guests hadn’t had Indian food before and they really enjoyed trying everything. We had spoken to chef at the venue to prepare some samples for when we had our food tasting. The other thing that people really liked was the mixture of Indian and Irish wedding favours. All the men received mini Jameson whiskey bottles and the women received small jewellery boxes which we’d bought when we went to India.

    My advice is to be as creative as possible and just enjoy expressing both sides of your cultures. I’m sure it will be a great day!

    Best of luck!

    Davesh

  5. Avatar Lisa says:

    Hi Davesh and Pamela,
    Congratulations on your marriage. Your wedding day looked wonderful and this page has been a great source of inspiration for my Fiancé and I, as we are also planning an Irish Indian wedding! We were wondering if you managed to find a pandit in Ireland or did you fly someone over from the UK for the ceremony?
    Kind regards
    Lisa

  6. Avatar Davesh Dubal says:

    Hi Lisa,

    First of all congratulations!
    I couldn’t find a pandit in Ireland so I flew one over from the UK. There were quite a few who had done mixed marriages and I was keen to have someone that spoke English well so the Irish side didn’t feel excluded. If you have a Google you’ll easily find one. I had to cover the flight and a night’s stay. I didn’t want to take the risk of him flying out on the morning of the wedding.

    Best of luck with the preparations and congrats again!

    Davesh

  7. Avatar Lisa says:

    Hi Davesh,
    Thank you for the quick response! That’s great, we were thinking we would have to do the same alright, but it’s helpful to hear it from someone who has done it!
    Thanks again!
    Lisa

  8. Avatar Sara says:

    Dear Davesh,
    Thanks for sharing your story! My fiance and I will be getting married in Ireland next year. I’m Indian/Hindu and he’s Irish. Would you be willing to share the name of the priest you worked with, or any others you thought would be a good fit?

    Thank you!
    Sara

  9. Avatar Patrick says:

    Hi Davesh,
    Your wedding day looks amazing and has provided some great inspiration for our Indian-Irish wedding. You mentioned in one of your comments that your chef was good enough to prepare some Indian food for the canapés and afters food, however we would be very interested in understanding if you looked into sourcing authentic Indian cuisine for the meal as we would love to arrange some Gujarati food for the reception.
    Thanks in advance!
    Patrick

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